Breaking Free: How Starting Each Day with Love Can Help You Overcome Perfectionism and Shame.
Have you ever wondered what keeps you from loving… you? Have you ever wondered why some professionals have confidence from day one while others struggle no matter what they achieved.
As someone who struggled with low self esteem and perfectionism throughout my career, it took me years to understand the root cause of my issue and how to finally break free. After years of searching and seeking I finally discovered the answer and It turns out that the root cause of perfectionism…is SHAME!
Experiencing shame in childhood can have a profound impact on our professional lives, often keeping us stuck and preventing us from reaching our full potential. Shame can manifest in many ways, such as a constant feeling of not being good enough, struggling with perfectionism, and being unable to see our own value. These negative beliefs can hold us back and prevent us from experiencing true success and fulfillment.
The impact of childhood shame can show up in our professional lives in a variety of ways. For example, it can cause us to constantly seek validation and approval from others, leading to a fear of taking risks or making decisions on our own. We may also struggle with impostor syndrome, feeling like a fraud or that we don't deserve our successes. For decades I struggled with seeing my own value and spent my days trying to prove my worth in one way or another. What I discovered was that shame in childhood can also create a negative self-image, leading to a lack of confidence and self-esteem, no matter what we accomplish.
Fortunately, there are ways to break free from the cycle of shame and negative self-talk. One powerful tool is to begin each day with love in your heart. This means connecting to your heart center and choosing to focus on positive and compassionate thoughts about yourself and others, and letting go of negative self-judgment.
Starting the day with love in your heart can help to counteract the negative impact of shame by fostering a sense of self-love and compassion. By choosing to approach the day with a positive mental state, you are more likely to view yourself and your abilities in a positive light. This can help to build confidence and self-esteem, enabling you to take on new challenges and opportunities with greater ease.
In addition to starting the day with love in your heart, there are other steps you can take to heal childhood shame and build a more positive self-image. These include meditation, practicing mindfulness and self-compassion, and surrounding yourself with supportive and positive people who light up when you enter the room.
In conclusion, experiencing shame in childhood can have a significant impact on our professional lives, leading to negative beliefs about ourselves and a lack of confidence and self-worth. By beginning each day with love in our hearts, we can counteract these negative beliefs and build a more positive and compassionate mindset. With time, effort, and the right support, it is possible to break free from the cycle of shame and build a more fulfilling and successful professional life.